Help with grief, loss, bereavementAre you feeling unable to cope with losing someone or something?
Help with grief, loss, bereavement
We deal with grief in many different ways. We may be devastated, shocked, angry, relieved or even pleased.
When our grandparents or parents get to a certain age and they become frail we come to an acceptance that one day they will die. But when someone dies suddenly and unexpectedly that’s when we can go into denial. You simply cannot comprehend what has happened and you may suffer shock, a kind of numbness where life happens around you.
You will feel like you are in a bubble and nobody understands what you are going through.
There are different stages to grief:
Shock & Denial – You cannot believe this is happening. You may tell yourself this isn’t really happening. You carry on as if it isn’t happening. You tell yourself it will all go away if you don’t talk about it.
Then comes Pain & Guilt – I am pleased he is dead. Does this make me a bad person? I should have told her I loved her. My heart is broken now he is gone.
Anger – How could this happen to them? They were such a good person. Why did this happen to them? Which goes back to denial.
Bargaining – You may say things like if you bring my mum back I will never drink again. Or take me, not my child.
Depression – A feeling that you simply cannot go on with your life because theirs has been taken away.
Acceptance – You reach the point of accepting what has happened and start to move on with your own life and plan for your future.
This is sometimes easier said than done and this is where hypnotherapy can help you with your grief. If you are stuck in the cycle of grief and unable to move because of shock, hypnotherapy can help you make sense of things in a gentle, nurturing and supportive way.
There is no right or wrong way to the emotions you may be experiencing. We all grieve at different rates and whilst other family members may be moving on you can’t.
You may be grieving the loss of a pet. This is just as heart-breaking and sometimes more so to that of losing a person. We become so attached to our animals that they are a part of our family. Sometimes friends don’t understand how you can be so upset over an animal.
You may also grief over the loss of a job or a relationship. Maybe you thought this was your dream job and you can’t come to terms with the fact that they no longer want you. Maybe you are in shock from an abrupt end to a relationship or friendship and it’s really painful.
Please call me if you are in any kind of distress and discover how hypnotherapy can help soothe and calm you, gently and easily.
Help with Grief and Loss in Fareham, Southampton, Portsmouth, Winchester, Hampshire.